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\nOkay, my friends, today I will talk about some untruths, or better, lies about the work, and see how when we treat them as true, we damage our careers and the quality of life.
\nI will relate to my work experience, and to the lies that may be related to the profession of a coach and refer to examples from the work with our clients. In a company like ours,(EMI – Coaching and Consulting) where ‘coaching’ and ‘consulting’, or training and consulting are selected and used as ‘tools to help individuals and teams excel in their professional potential by bringing a fuller personal life’.
\nAs a profession, it is relatively new, and many people ask different questions, often with the curiosity for a new thing. And often the perception of this work is far from true, but I see these same wrong perceptions for the work in general that I try to bring to your attention in this episode. You can call them wrong perceptions or the wrong assumptions, but in reality, I think they are lies we are taught about the work we do. And depending on how we perceive and build expectations from the work we do, that is how we perform and then suffer the consequences of our efforts in a job not meeting our expectations. In other words, these wrong perceptions\/ expectations are the lies we often believe about our job:
\nIt should give us:
\n1. Full financial coverage
\n2. Meaning of what we do in life
\n3. Wonderful relationships with our peers and our superiors
\n4. And it should be definitely in the field of our first graduation<\/p>\nThis generally is a utopian idea.
\nWe may not necessarily like the work that provides us with the material goods, that pay our bills, and if it happens that you have all these four expectations fulfilled as all in one, it is a great blessing. But the message that I am trying to pass is that each of us adults, should get out there in the work market and contribute to the wellbeing of the family, liking or not the work we do. The other point to make is whether you like the work or not, your dedication must be great and controlled by you, under your control, aiming to justify your compensation and adding even more value.
\nIt is only logical, that while you do that, immediately, start thinking and preparing for the work you aspire to have. This depends on how talented you are at a certain field and at what stage are your talents being trained into tradeable skills to use in the work market. But while you have the basic job, (as we call it in the PTTP program, the first pillar), you have the possibility to develop horizontally (trying to find another employer in the same industry) or create a venture (second pillar) using your talents and the current skills created. Here is also the value of volunteering your services (the third pillar) to a group of people who really do not have the means to pay. You do this work not expecting anything in return, This will give meaning to your life. On the other hand, this unpaid, volunteer job with beneficiaries people that do not pay you, but who are there to help with their feedback and actually give you a work market validation that we all need. This is how we strip our main basic job from all the extra expectations that are hard to achieve as all in one. This is priceless in value. You see and practice an aspiration, and you understand that by giving, you become richer
\nIn the episode, we dwell more on a message from a listener that happened to be an old acquaintance of mine that asks specifically about the questions I raise and the lies that we cloth our basic work with.
\nHope you enjoy listening and I am really looking forward to seeing what your experiences are related to your work,
\nMiqesisht, Elida<\/p>\n
Mir\u00eb, miqt\u00eb e mi, sot do t\u00eb flas p\u00ebr disa t\u00eb pav\u00ebrteta, ose m\u00eb mir\u00eb, g\u00ebnjeshtra p\u00ebr pun\u00ebn, dhe shikoni se si i trajtojm\u00eb ato si t\u00eb v\u00ebrteta, duke lene te na d\u00ebmtojm\u00eb karrier\u00ebn ton\u00eb dhe cil\u00ebsin\u00eb e jet\u00ebs.
\nDuke e lidhur me p\u00ebrvoj\u00ebn time t\u00eb pun\u00ebs, dhe me g\u00ebnjeshtrat q\u00eb mund t\u00eb lidhen me profesionin e Coach\/trajnerit dhe do i referohem shembujve nga puna me klient\u00ebt tan\u00eb. N\u00eb nj\u00eb kompani si e jona (EMI – Coaching and Consulting) ku trajnimi\/coaching dhe konsulenca p\u00ebrzgjidhen te p\u00ebrdoren si “mjete p\u00ebr t\u00eb ndihmuar individ\u00ebt dhe ekipet q\u00eb t\u00eb shk\u00eblqejn\u00eb n\u00eb potencialin e tyre profesional duke sjell\u00eb nj\u00eb jet\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb plot\u00eb personale” .
\nSi nj\u00eb profesion, \u00ebsht\u00eb relativisht i re dhe shum\u00eb njer\u00ebz b\u00ebjn\u00eb pyetje t\u00eb ndryshme, shpesh me kuriozitetin p\u00ebr nj\u00eb gj\u00eb t\u00eb re. Dhe shpesh perceptimi i k\u00ebsaj pune \u00ebsht\u00eb larg nga e v\u00ebrteta, por un\u00eb i shoh k\u00ebto si t\u00eb nj\u00ebjtat perceptime t\u00eb gabuara p\u00ebr pun\u00ebn n\u00eb p\u00ebrgjith\u00ebsi q\u00eb un\u00eb p\u00ebrpiqem t\u00eb sjell n\u00eb v\u00ebmendjen tuaj n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb episod. Ju mund t’i quani ato perceptime t\u00eb gabuara ose supozime t\u00eb gabuara, por n\u00eb realitet, un\u00eb mendoj se ata jan\u00eb g\u00ebnjeshtra q\u00eb na m\u00ebsojn\u00eb p\u00ebr pun\u00ebn q\u00eb b\u00ebjm\u00eb. Dhe n\u00eb var\u00ebsi t\u00eb asaj se si ne i perceptojm\u00eb dhe i nd\u00ebrtojm\u00eb pritjet nga puna q\u00eb b\u00ebjm\u00eb, kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00ebnyra se si ne kryejm\u00eb dhe pastaj i marrim pasojat e p\u00ebrpjekjeve tona n\u00eb nj\u00eb pun\u00eb q\u00eb nuk i plot\u00ebson pritjet tona.
\nMe fjal\u00eb t\u00eb tjera, k\u00ebto perceptime \/ pritje t\u00eb gabuara jan\u00eb g\u00ebnjeshtrat q\u00eb ne shpesh besojm\u00eb n\u00eb pun\u00ebn ton\u00eb:
\nPuna duhet t\u00eb na jap\u00eb:
\n1. Mbulimi te plot\u00eb financiar
\n2. Kuptimin e asaj q\u00eb ne b\u00ebjm\u00eb n\u00eb jet\u00eb
\n3. Marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie t\u00eb mrekullueshme me koleg\u00ebt po sidomos edhe me epror\u00ebt tan\u00eb
\n4. Dhe duhet t\u00eb jet\u00eb patjet\u00ebr n\u00eb fush\u00ebn e diplomimit ton\u00eb t\u00eb par\u00eb<\/p>\n
Kjo n\u00eb p\u00ebrgjith\u00ebsi \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb ide utopike.
\nNe ndoshta nuk mund t\u00eb p\u00eblqejm\u00eb pun\u00ebn q\u00eb na siguron te mirat materiale, q\u00eb paguan faturat tona dhe n\u00ebse ndodh q\u00eb t\u00eb kesh t\u00eb gjitha k\u00ebto kat\u00ebr pritshm\u00ebri t\u00eb p\u00ebrmbushura, si t\u00eb gjitha n\u00eb nj\u00eb, \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb bekim i madh. Por mesazhi q\u00eb po p\u00ebrpiqem t\u00eb jap \u00ebsht\u00eb se secili nga ne t\u00eb rriturit duhet t\u00eb shkoj\u00eb atje n\u00eb tregun e pun\u00ebs dhe t\u00eb kontribuoj\u00eb p\u00ebr mir\u00ebqenien e familjes, duke e dashur apo jo pun\u00ebn bazike q\u00eb b\u00ebjm\u00eb. Nga ana tjet\u00ebr, n\u00ebse ju p\u00eblqen puna ose jo, p\u00ebrkushtimi juaj duhet t\u00eb jet\u00eb i madh dhe i kontrolluar nga ju, n\u00ebn kontrollin tuaj, duke synuar q\u00eb t\u00eb justifikoni pagesen tuaj dhe duke shtuar edhe m\u00eb shum\u00eb vler\u00eb.
\n\u00cbsht\u00eb logjike vet\u00ebm q\u00eb, nd\u00ebrsa e b\u00ebni k\u00ebt\u00eb, menj\u00ebher\u00eb te filloni t\u00eb mendoni dhe t\u00eb p\u00ebrgatiteni p\u00ebr pun\u00ebn q\u00eb d\u00ebshironi t\u00eb keni. Kjo varet nga sa t\u00eb talentuar jeni n\u00eb nj\u00eb fush\u00eb t\u00eb caktuar dhe n\u00eb cil\u00ebn faz\u00eb jan\u00eb talentet tuaja t\u00eb trajnuara per te qen\u00eb aft\u00ebsi t\u00eb tregtueshme p\u00ebr t’u p\u00ebrdorur n\u00eb tregun e pun\u00ebs. Por, nd\u00ebrsa ju keni pun\u00ebn themelore (si\u00e7 e quajm\u00eb n\u00eb programin PTTP, shtylla e par\u00eb), ju keni mund\u00ebsin\u00eb t\u00eb zhvilloheni horizontalisht (duke u p\u00ebrpjekur per shembull t\u00eb gjeni nj\u00eb pun\u00ebdh\u00ebn\u00ebs tjet\u00ebr n\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebn industri) ose t\u00eb krijoni nj\u00eb sip\u00ebrmarrje (shtylla e dyt\u00eb) duke p\u00ebrdorur talentet tuaja dhe aft\u00ebsit\u00eb aktuale t\u00eb krijuara. K\u00ebtu \u00ebsht\u00eb edhe vlera e sh\u00ebrbimeve vullnetare (shtylla e tret\u00eb) p\u00ebr nj\u00eb grup njer\u00ebzish q\u00eb me t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb nuk kan\u00eb mjetet p\u00ebr tju paguar. Ju b\u00ebni k\u00ebt\u00eb pun\u00eb duke mos pritur asgj\u00eb n\u00eb k\u00ebmbim, kjo do t\u00eb jap\u00eb kuptim p\u00ebr jet\u00ebn tuaj.
\nNga ana tjet\u00ebr, kjo pun\u00eb e papaguar, vullnetare me p\u00ebrfitues t\u00eb njer\u00ebzve q\u00eb nuk ju paguajn\u00eb, por q\u00eb jan\u00eb atje p\u00ebr te t\u00eb ndihmuar me reagimet e tyre dhe ju japin v\u00ebrtet nj\u00eb vlefshm\u00ebri t\u00eb tregut t\u00eb pun\u00ebs q\u00eb t\u00eb gjith\u00eb ne e kemi nevoj\u00eb. Kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00ebnyra se si ia heqim pun\u00ebs kryesore, punes baz\u00eb t\u00eb gjitha pritjet ekstra q\u00eb jan\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebshtira p\u00ebr t’u arritur, t\u00eb gjitha n\u00eb nj\u00eb.
\nKjo \u00ebsht\u00eb e pakonceptueshme n\u00eb vler\u00eb. Ju shikoni dhe praktikoni nj\u00eb aspirat\u00eb, dhe ju e kuptoni se duke dh\u00ebn\u00eb, ju b\u00ebheni m\u00eb t\u00eb pasur
\nN\u00eb episod, ne qendrojm\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb mesazh nga nj\u00eb d\u00ebgjuese q\u00eb qellon t\u00eb jet\u00eb nj\u00eb njohje e vjet\u00ebr e imja q\u00eb k\u00ebrkon n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb specifike te dije n\u00eb lidhje me pyetjet q\u00eb ngre dhe pritshmerite (g\u00ebnjeshtrat) me te cilat ne veshim pun\u00ebn ton\u00eb themelore.
\nShpresoj q\u00eb ta p\u00eblqeni por nese jo, me t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb po pres ide te ndryshme tuajat, p\u00ebrvojat tuaja ne lidhje me percepsionet nee pun\u00ebn tuaj,
\nMiqesisht, Elida<\/p>\n
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